Family30 – 4 –  Knowing, Embracing, & Celebrating Your Role in the Family

 

Welcome – Chris Fluitt | Redemption Church Plano

Family 30

 

Who is thankful for your family?

Week 4 of the challenge!

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Personally – Feel accomplished… more work to do.

 

A LOT OF WORK… and little time.

Fear of school shooting:
  -Did you pray?

  -Did you pray with others?
  -Aren’t you glad we pray for your school…?

 

  -Other sons – thankful God kept us safe.

  -Other dad (Christian) – “Aren’t you glad for God’s peace?”

 

Let’s be thankful for our families!

 

Today

Knowing, Embracing, & Celebrating Your Role in the Family

 

God created the family – created roles.

Do you know your role?
Do embrace your role?
Do you celebrate the role others play?

 

Titles in the world = Succe$$ & Power

 

Titles in God’s Kingdom = Loving Service and Responsibility

 

 

• Every step you take into your role is a step away from selfishness.
  • You can’t succeed and be selfish
• Grow in your role – or lose it.
• Your role serves others.
  • Not fight others.

 

The Role of the Spouse

• Mutual Love & Respect (Eph 5:21,25)
• Different but unified
  • Men desire significance
  • Women desire security
• Produce life together

 

Do not be Al Bundy
Al Bundy  (Married with Children)

• Joked about dying over staying married
• Instead produce LIFE

 

The Role of the Parent

• Grow & Guide
  • “Bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” (Eph 6:4)
  • Grow faith, curiosity, strength, passion,
  • Guide values, responses
• Balance discipline with love
  • No means no
  • No means I love you as much as yes.
  • Discipline is love (spare the rod – Proverbs 13:24)
• Model & teach

 

Deuteronomy 6:4-7
4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.
5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.
6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.
7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

 

The Role of the Child

• Obedience and Honor

 

Ephesians 6:1-3
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3 “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

 

“But they are wrong.”
Your role is not to correct your parents… Obey and honor.
Ask questions as you obey and honor.

 

• Grow

Luke 2:52
And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man.

• Be trustworthy
  • Parents delegate AUTHORITY and not just tasks
    • CELL PHONE
    • They are ready for a cell phone when they are ready for authority.
    • Follow up with accountability. 

 

The Role of Extended Family

• Offer Support, care, and wisdom
• Pass down heritage
  • What will you pass down?
    • Family history
    • Faith

Proverbs 17:6 Children’s children are a crown to the aged

 

Knowing, Embracing, & Celebrating Your Role in the Family

We should be thankful for the roles in our family.

 

Activate your gratitude.

 

Grow in your role – or lose it.

If you don’t become the voice in your child’s life… they will seek another voice.

 

If you don’t operate in your role… They may never understand their future role.

 

If you don’t use your time… your time will pass.

 

Harry Chapin song…

“My child arrived just the other day

He came to the world in the usual way

But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay

He learned to walk while I was away

And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it

And as he grew, he’d say

“I’m gonna be like you, Dad

You know I’m gonna be like you”

 

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon

Little boy blue and the man in the moon

“When you comin’ home, Dad?”

“I don’t know when

But we’ll get together then

You know we’ll have a good time then”

 

“I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I could find the time”
“You see, my new job’s a hassle and the kid’s got the flu”
“But it’s sure nice talkin’ to you, Dad
It’s been sure nice talkin’ to you”

And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you comin’ home, son?
“I don’t know when
But we’ll get together then, Dad
We’re gonna have a good time then”

 

Grow in your role – or lose it.

 

The clock is ticking.

Are you in your role?
Is someone out of their role?

What will we do?

 

This is worth praying about… and we will.

It is POWERFUL to stand in your role and speak.

 

Joshua – leader of Israel, needing to lead the people into the promised land.

 

Joshua 24:15
But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”

 

Joshua’s Roles

• Leader of Israel
• Leader of a household
• Child of God

 

Leader of Israel is a fancy title… but the humble roles are the most powerful.

You may never be a notional leader…

But your role in your family is powerful.
Your role in God’s Family is powerful.

 

The Role of God in the Family

 

God created the Family.
Shouldn’t He play a role in yours?

 

Psalm 127:1
Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.

 

Are you allowing God to play His role in your family?

 

Time to Act
1 Invite God to “Build The House.”

   -Prayer/repentance

   -Seek His Wisdom/Word

   -Make Jesus your “role model”

2 Know, Embrace, Celebrate

   -How can you do this? Make an action plan.

3 Role Regret?

  -Do not let regret hold you back.

  -Regret means you need to change.

  -God can restore your role.