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Family30 – 1 – Discover Your Family’s MISSION and WIN
Welcome – Chris Fluitt | Redemption Church Plano
Family 30
How important are families?
Is your family important?
What about the families around you?
Families are fracturing.
- Rising Divorce Rates 40-50%
- Single-Parent Households 23%
- Poverty 16% children (11.6 million)
30% of children in single parent homes
- Food Insecurity 12.5% of households
- Screen Time & Mental Health
7 hours a day on screen
Increased depression, anxiety, disorder
- Substance Abuse 20 million people
- Childhood Obesity 19.7%
- Decline in Religious Participation
Steady decline linked to weakening family bonds, community involvement, and value confusion.
- Work-Life Balance Stress
- Domestic Violence +33%.
Let’s ask again…
How important are families?
Is your family important?
What about the families around you?
Where should we go for help?
Self-help books?
Therapy/counseling/coaches?
Good choices… better choice?
God created “Family”
God loves your family – answers in His word.
Genesis 2
God creates ADAM (‘āḏām) from the GROUND (‘ăḏāmâ)
Genesis 2:18 (NIV) The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
God creates everything good…
Let there be light… it is good.
Let there be sky and water… it is good.
Lands, plants, animals… it is good.
BUT GOD CREATES A PERSON… “IT IS NOT GOOD ALONE”
We are not good alone… We need family.
Single, widowed, empty nesters, we still need family.
Adam needed family…
Genesis 2:22-24
Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
God created family by taking OF ADAM and FOR ADAM.
Took the rib – of Adam
Made a wife – for Adam.
Family is OF YOU and FOR YOU.
Your children are OF YOU and FOR YOU.
God’s design is for your children to leave one day and find someone to continue this idea of family.
God created “Family”
We should understand His design.
Divorce is not His design…
Domestic violence is not…
Zombie children staring at screens…
Absentee dads…
Let’s get back to the design.
Family 30
We are going to challenge you to grow deeper, stronger, and more connected as a family over the next 30 days.
We have some value adds…
-Calendar challenge to do relationship building activities EVERY DAY.
–Facebook group to share ideas, plans, successes, and community online – and perhaps get together IRL (in real life)
-We have bracelets to help remind you…
Series outline
Week 2 – Is Someone Creating Unnecessary Stress and Disappointment? Let’s Talk.
Week 3 – Blessings for Blended, Mended and Extended Families.
Week 4 – Knowing, Embracing, & Celebrating Your Role in the Family.
Week 5 – Your advantage – The Source for your Best Family.
MAKE PLANS TO BE HERE EVERY WEEK!
GO ALL IN – 30 DAY CHALLENGE
Family? Stop living life alone.
Grow in your friendships…
Prepare for future families…
Invest in extended families…
Today
Week 1 – Discover your Family’s MISSION and WIN!
A verse that often causes people to bristle…
Ephesians 5:22-24
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
What word causes people to bristle? SUBMIT
SUBMISSION
This feels like a negative word.
Slave mentality… loss of independence
Being controlled
Unhealthy balance of power
Emotional harm
Feeling trapped or unable to speak.
These thoughts hurt families… So let’s rethink submission.
Sub/Under Mission
Under Mission
We come under the mission of Jesus and work to achieve the mission.
What would it look like to come under the mission of your family to achieve its mission?
Not CONTROLLING but EMPOWERING.
Not HELPLESS but HELPFUL.
Not ENSLAVED but SERVING.
Ephesians 5:21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
What would it look like to SUBMIT… to come under the mission of…
Your husband?
Your wife?
Your children?
For kids to come under the mission of the parents?
Submission is not a negative now.. but a positive.
It is a gift you give to someone you love… who is on a mission.
Delegating Tasks
Someone needs to take out the trash…
Go do this… Do it now…
Not a great feeling…
Try a different method…
Delegating Tasks
Delegating Authority
I give you authority to help the mission…
Use your mind…
Use your giftings…
Use your time…
Are there still tasks? YES.
We still need to take out the trash… ALWAYS
There is a deadline…
These are the tasks…
I give you the authority to get these important tasks done in the way you think best.
- Teaches delegation of authority
- Teaches time management, problem solving.
- Teaches thinking
Then you follow up.
-Make corrections
-Celebrate mission accomplished
Working together as a family to accomplish a mission is WINNING.
What is your Family’s Mission?
If you asked everyone in your home… what would they say?
Wildly different answers?
Fluitt Family Mission Statement
“We follow Christ, love one another, serve others, and grow together in purpose and grace.”
This is what is important to us.
It includes…
The Lord…
One another…
Beyond us… others…
Future growth…
A growing purpose…
A growing grace…
What is your Family’s Mission?
Work on it together.
Come under the mission.
It is not just taking out the trash… it is loving one another as we accomplish the mission.
I gave you some information today…
It becomes powerful when it becomes ACTION.
Time to Act!
- Define our family mission.
- Pray & worship together.
- Work as a family to define it.
- Come under someone’s mission.
- Struggle with authority?
-Delegate authority
-Serve
- Join the Challenge
- Commit to having your best family.
- Invite others on the journey.
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